You do unto others as you perceive they do unto you. If you live in an attack/defense type of thinking world, you will see others as also in the attack/defense mode. If you have perpetrator/victim thinking, you will see others as perpetrators or victims. If you believe in attack, defense, perpetration, and victimization, you will become involved in rescuing. If you become involved in rescuing, you will fail. You cannot rescue anyone. You cannot change anyone. Everyone is creating their own circumstances for their own purposes. You can only love, teach and be responsible for yourself. Every one creates his own victim dilemma. Everyone creates his own strategies for solving this dilemma. No one can rescue you because no one has victimized you. 

Rescue is what the ego is constantly trying to do, without saying so. But how can the ego rescue if the ego is the agent of victimization? We have victimized ourselves, but we cannot rescue ourselves.

The little cartoon below is interesting. It suggests that you crucify yourself and others. This is our most common belief. We assume that others have crucified us and that we have crucified others. This sets us up for guilt, shame, manipulation, attack and defense. While it is logical to say that if you crucify others you crucify self, and if you crucify self you crucify others, Infinity Theory says that Poor Me is just a painful perception. You do not have to live in a crucify or get crucified world any longer. Jesus’ crucifixion finished all of that, although we have not yet caught on. He said "It is finished." (John 19:30)

God is not mocked. You are as God created you. You don’t need to anxiety yourself, depress yourself, scare yourself, anger yourself, pity yourself, protect yourself, worry yourself, avenge your wounds, medicate your symptoms, waste your energy, prove you are right. It is finished. Live! Enjoy! The crucifixion is over. Victimization is over.  Live in the Spirit. You are free.