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A Little Talk for Men: The Mid-Life Window of Opportunity is Open

The mid-life crisis is a window of opportunity. After many years this window opens, a window by which you may step out of your drama, your nightmare, out of your customary pattern, and look at the Bigger Picture. Do not downplay or ignore this window. It comes rarely. It comes at the point of defeat, helplessness, and depression. This Window of Opportunity for healing makes conscious the three beliefs that trap us, separate us and deprive us. Jesus went into the desert to be tested and came out full of light, and announced his mission of good news to the blind, to the deaf, to the broken hearted, to the prisoner, and to the poor.

If you are not qualified by sufficient suffering and readiness, you will not see the Window of Opportunity or hear the good news. His mission was to be fulfilled in the "acceptable year of the Lord," which means now. The Window of Opportunity is open now, when you are suffering with your symptom. At some remote future time, you may be feeling better and you will just cling to the old self-concept and all of its baggage. Now is the time of transformation. Now is the time to recognize the unholy trinity of beliefs that binds you to your suffering and symptoms: (1) the belief that you are separated, alone and different; (2) the belief that you are lacking, inadequate, and deprived; (3) the belief that you are trapped, stuck and victimized.

Before a man realizes his spirituality, he will usually destroy his relationship to a woman. He will be like a bull in a china shop. Before he realizes his own spirituality, he will be motivated by envy, fear, and powerless anger because she seems to have more intuitive ability. But you are a spiritual being, not just a body or a personality, not just your self-concept. Your beloved is not your enemy, she is just scared and self-defensive. She is just afraid of your bull-in-the-china-shop reactivity.

Realize you are a spiritual being. Nothing limits you except your own story. Nothing can hurt you, deprive you, trap you, victimize you, or make you feel alone or powerless, except these three false beliefs. You are a human god in a body, in a personality. God lives in your body. You do not need to be anxious. You are love itself, you are light itself, you are peace and joy itself. Just relax and realize you are a spiritual being. You are full of wisdom. Just ask for it and it will come to you. The God of Wisdom lives in you. You are full of grace. The God of free flowing Grace lives in you. You are full of peace and patience; the God of Peace and Patience lives in you. You are full of health and power; the God of Health and Power lives in you. You are full of creativity and abundance; the God of Plenty abides in you. You are alive and free; the God of Freedom lives in you.

The Window of Opportunity is now open for you. This window opens when you realize that you have reached a point of crisis. "Crisis" means a dangerous opportunity. "Dangerous" because it may close if you ignore it or run from it. An "opportunity" because you can now see that you have been overlooking your Inner Treasure. You have always looked outside for everything. You have begged, bargained and groveled to get a cupful of water, approval, and acceptance. You have overlooked the river of power and peace inside you. Now at this mid-life crisis you are shocked awake. You could lose your sanity, your control, your security, right? Wrong. Your sanity, your control and your security are not outside of you, where you thought they were. The Window of Opportunity shows you that these things are within. They cannot be lost, stolen or taken from you. God has planted them in the depths of your being. No human gave them to you and no human can take them from you. Only your mistaken judgments and opinions about who and what you are has deprived you of this priceless knowledge.

What would you give for priceless knowledge? There is no price for the knowledge that Jesus gave us when he said :"Don’t you know that you are a human god?" You never heard that one, did you? You never will. But it is said clearly in John 10. The Window of Opportunity is now open for this priceless knowledge. Jesus discovered his own inner treasure of priceless knowledge where everyone else does: in the desert. The desert is when nothing is outside for your comfort and support. The desert is when you have lost everything and feel totally empty and alone. There is nowhere to look but within. After 40 days with no food, no friends, no sex, none of the outer comforts of home, no radio or magazines or television, no distractions, Jesus was tempted. The Evil One came and offered him the typical outer world solutions: food, magic and power. He said no. He was already full of the light of this priceless knowledge that God was at the center of his being. He knew that he was a human god, an infinite being. No outside thing could offer him anything he did not already have inside.

Jesus came out of that desert place full of light and announced the Good News to the world. Only Luke the physician heard it clearly enough to write it down in Luke 4. The Window of Opportunity is open for you right now because you are in your mid-life crisis. Do not wait. The next time this window opens your body may be old and sick, stuck in your pain, resentment and emptiness. Look within. Accept this desert time as your gift, your blessing. Wake up from this nightmare of outward looking.

Rabbi Isaac of Krakow had a dream. "Travel to Prague, look under the bridge, and you will find a great treasure." The first time he had this dream, he ignored it. Rabbi Isaac was a practical man. He sought neither to be nor to appear foolish. Both hopes were tested when his dream recurred. Finally, he donned his cloak and set off for Prague in search of gold. After an arduous journey, he arrived and found the bridge easily. But there was a problem. Soldiers guarded it, day and night. Rabbi Isaac waited for his opening, but the changing of the guards was too efficient. At last, he gave up, cursing himself for his credulity.

As he turned to leave, one of the soldiers finally spoke, "Hey, old man, you've been hanging about here for a long time. Now you're leaving? What am I missing?" Rabbi Isaac sighed. "I had a silly dream. I thought God was talking to me in my sleep. He told me to come here. All the way from Krakow. I shouldn't have listened."

"Foolish man," the soldier replied. "I had a dream like that once, a stupid dream. God told me to go to Krakow and look up a Rabbi Isaac. I would discover a great treasure buried beneath his stove. Can you believe such a thing?" Rabbi Isaac tipped his cap to the soldier, returned to Krakow, and found a great treasure buried beneath his stove

Our society does not supply us with the tools to dig within, but you already have them. Just ask and wait quietly and you will "know." Guaranteed.

The Man Nobody Knows

Bruce Barton, The Man Nobody Knows (Indianapolis: Bobbs-Merrill Company, 1925. A business executive in 1925 wrote a thrilling little book by this title, giving a different look at Jesus.

Jesus is the man nobody knows. And so are you.

You are a spiritual being, not just a body or personality. If everyone was blind and could not see the body, it would be interesting to see how the world would be different.

You are a victim of nothing or no one, unless you abdicate your responsibility. Today I tak to you about The Man Nobody Knows, the hidden man of the heart. Some people may know his name, but that does not mean that they know him.

When I first got interested in working with criminals, I contacted a colleague of mine. After some discussion, he decided that he would not get involved, it might ruin his reputation. Reputation is not anyone is. Reputation is who people judge you to be. You are not your reputation. You are not even who you believe yourself to be, because each of us has created his own reputation in his own mind, and that reputation is who he thinks he is.

The Man Nobody Knows is the inner man, the man that Peter speaks of as " the hidden man of the heart" in 1 Peter 3:4. Jesus was such a man and so are you. Jesus can only be known by knowing yourself, the self beyond reputation, the self beyond our self-concept. The I beyond the me.

Although Jesus was a nobody in the eyes of the world, one may saw him differently:

 

One Solitary Life

Here is a man who was born in an obscure village, the child of a peasant woman. He grew up in another village. He worked in a carpenter shop until He was thirty. Then for three years He was an itinerant preacher.He never owned a home. He never wrote a book. He never held an office. He never had a family. He never went to college. He never put His foot inside a big city. He never traveled two hundred miles from the place He was born. He never did one of the things that usually accompany greatness. He had no credentials but Himself..

While still a young man, the tide of popular opinion turned against him. His friends ran away. One of them denied Him. He was turned over to His enemies. He went through the mockery of a trial. He was nailed upon a cross between two thieves. While He was dying His executioners gambled for the only piece of property He had on earth – His coat. When He was dead, He was laid in a borrowed grave through the pity of a friend.Nineteen long centuries have come and gone, and today He is a centerpiece of the human race and leader of the column of progress.

I am far within the mark when I say that all the armies that ever marched, all the navies that were ever built; all the parliaments that ever sat and all the kings that ever reigned, put together, have not affected the life of man upon this earth as powerfully as has that one solitary life.


Dr James Allan Francis

 

The Guiness Book of World Records has collected world record holders in many fields of skill and ability. Jesus isn’t in the Guiness Book of World Records, but he should be considered for the Champion of Consciousness award. His world record was set 2000 years ago, and he claimed that other humans could break his record, but as far as I can judge, no one has broken his Consciousness Championship record in as many areas and with such historical impact. Maurice Bucke, M.D. catalogued 36 cases of persons who had achieved cosmic states of consciousness down through history, but none of them broke the existing record which Jesus had set.

To paraphrase some of Jesus’ record-breaking feats, consider that he:

Ran the entire long distance race that was set before him

Lifted the weight of the world from human shoulders

Vaulted over some of the highest obstacles imaginable

Walked on water

Levitated

Raised the dead

Healed the sick by command

Passed through walls

Materialized objects out of thin air

Proved that bi-location is possible

Exhibited his aura

Was the World’s Greatest Unconditional Lover

Qualifies for the Pulitzer Peace Prize

Ranks as the Most Influential Person in history

Calmed a storm

Fed 5000 men

Is the Most Quoted Non-author

Conquered death

Taught a new ethical code for humanity

Counseled the deranged

Befriended prostitutes, drunkards and party-goers

Healed a soldier’s child

Inspired many of the world’s greatest humans

Removed all limits for human potentiality

Used telepathy

Was one of the world’s greatest story tellers

A champion of the poor, minorities, children, women, outcasts

Demonstrated the power of mind over matter

Communicated with the dead

Predicted the future

Appeared in his resurrected spiritual body

Has visited many people even in the 20th century

Such feats do not in themselves qualify Jesus as the Champion of Consciousness. Many others have demonstrated parapsychological abilities, and other great teachers and avatars have exhibited various levels and powers of cosmic consciousness. But to me Jesus was the Champion of Consciousness who has opened the door of Consciousness for everyone—past, present and future.

St Paul never met Jesus in the flesh. But he met Jesus the only place he can be met, in the innermost man. To find the Hidden Man of the Heart, you must go into the soul and the heart. Paul was in prison. He went into his heart and he said "I have learned in whatever state I am in, to be content." What state was he in? Virginia? No. He was in the hidden state of the heart. Paul wrote while he was in prison that Christ is growing in you. Even in prison, the inner man can grow.

Gurdgieff was a modern teacher who told his students that everyone is in prison, and everyone is trying to escape, and that is our primary duty in life. What prison? The prison of the mind, the prison of fear, the prison of victimization, the prison of belief that your outer reputation is you. That is the same box that David Hawkins speaks of, the box everyone is trying to escape from. But we imagine that prison, that box, to be outward, which it is not. The prison is our belief system. Prison is an inner thing. We all may not seem to be prisoners, but we have to learn what the real prison is, which is reputation, not just your reputation, but anyone’s. Reputation is an outer thing which imprisons everyone. Famous or not, rich or not, important or not, educated or not. Reputation is our prison. If you don’t know you are a prisoner of your reputation, you will continue to think you are a victim.

If you have ever been judged or branded in the public’s eyes, it means that you have to really understand branding more than others do. You have to go deeper than reputation to find your power and peace. You have to discover the Hidden Man of the Heart in yourself. That is why we are here at this time on this planet. There is time and there are tools to assist anyone to pass this most difficult test of all. The only free man is one who is free from the prison of reputation. You will then know who Jesus is, what his mission was, and who you are. .

Are you qualified to be a seeker? Are you qualified to be healed? What is a qualifier? How is your credit? Let me see your resume. What is your education? Your job experience? Your court record? Your driving record? Your bank account? Your drug and alcohol history? How many divorces have you had? How far are you behind on your child support? These are qualifier questions you may be asked every day.

What are the qualifiers for the Priceless Knowledge of the Inner Man? You have to be sick, disturbed, rejected, flat broke, bankrupt, an outcast, blind, broken-hearted, or a prisoner. Those are the qualifications for the Inner Man Project. If you are okay, successful, normal, healthy, average, reputable, and have an acceptable history, you are not qualified. If you are doing okay in the outer world of reputation, why would you attempt the difficult task of the inner work? Almost no one does. When the outer fails, the inner becomes a necessity. When the outer seems successful, who would bother?

Who listened to Jesus? (the poor) Who signed up as his students? (fisherman, tax collectors, marginal people) Who were his heroes? (The samaritan, the prodigal son)

Who was the first person to enter paradise with him? ( a thief) Who carried his cross? (a black man) Who did he associate with (drunkards, prostitutes)? Who was the first person to discover his resurrection? (Mary Magdalene) Where did he discover the Inner Man? (in the desert) Who was his mission for? Those who needed a physician, said Luke.

The Inner Man Project is why we are here on this planet at this time. We have been here numerous times before, but this lifetime caps them all. The energy is ten times higher than ever before in history and the outer is stronger than ever before. That means that the inner is even more necessary. The faster and higher you climb the further and deeper you fall. Look at all of the football and music celebrities, how fast they climb and how far they fall. Look at all of the bankruptcies. Look at the economy. We see riches and fame on television nightly, yet we feel imprisoned by our assumed limitations. What a setup! What an opportunity to seek the Inner Man!

A modern song writer sings about;

The man nobody knows.

i'm a SHIT to a life
such a CUNT to your eyes
i really hate myself
so what the FUCK?!
myself i don't like
most people hate me
just because i pretend that i am strong
doesn't make you can call me SUCKA
i ain't a LOSA
oh kiss my ASS ...
i'm the man nobody knows,
BITCH!!!


Today I want you to just humor an old man. Let me philosophize, let me tell you a story or two, play games with your head, sometimes serious, sometimes ridiculous. Let’s pretend that we are all on a stage, that we are actors, acting out a drama. Like Shakespeare said, life is a stage and we are the cast. So here we are, acting out numerous roles and parts. We have been here on this stage of life hundreds of times before. Some times we were good guys, and sometimes bad guys, sometimes rich, sometimes poor, sometimes educated and sometimes uneducated; sometimes male, sometimes female.; sometimes priests, sometimes confessors. This time I’m the teacher and you are the student. Next time I may be sitting in your class.

So in this drama, we keep switching roles and parts, but we have to forget our former parts, or we couldn’t keep a straight face and the play would be dull. And so what is the point of it all? Well, that is what I want to talk about tonight. Why did I volunteer for my part for this go-round? Why didn’t I choose to play the judge or the prosecutor or the jury this time? Interesting questions. Well, Central Casting may have given you a little push into being the victimizer and the victim in this particular drama. As long as you were the victim in one round and the victimizer in another, you wouldn’t get it. But now you are both, and you’re in a better position to get it. Do you get it?

Its not that easy to get or we wouldn’t be here still struggling and suffering. Now you have plenty of reason to think I’m just fooling you. And you have scars to show that you were really wounded and abused. Yes, you do. And that is why it is so hard to get it. I’ve been very lucky this go round. I became a psychotherapist. I have listened to 25,000 people’s stories and believe me, they were all different, but yet they were all the same. Finally it dawned on me, thick head that I am. Every story had a bottom line: Poor Me and Ain’t it Awful. And then I realized that victims don’t exist, except in our dramas and stories. It was just a part we were playing that we got caught in .It was so serious! Now before you crucify me, I remind you that I am just spinning your head around to wake you up.

Who is Qualitifed to Benefit Most from this Window of Opportunity?

  • If you still think you can solve your own problems, you are not qualified
  • If you still think you are or can be in control of your symptoms, you are not qualified
  • If you still think a pill will solve your pain, you are not qualified
  • If you still think someone else is responsible for your dilemma, you are not qualified
  • If you still think everyone else but you needs therapy, you are not qualified
  • If you have no symptom, you don’t need a doctor
  • If you still think your pain is finite and your ego can fix it, go for it
  • If you are not disillusioned, you are not yet ripe for healing
  • If your defenses of denial, projection and rationalization are still working for you and you are not yet ready for honesty, don’t bother with Infinity Theory
  • If something isn’t broke, why fix it?
  • The Good News is only available to the imprisoned, the broken hearted, the blind, the bruised and the poverty stircken.
  • If the mediocrity of consumerism and co-dependency still satisfy you, then you are not ready
  • If you are not yet asking soul-searching questions, then forget it
  • If you still have human hopes and dreams, pursue them
  • If you think a better partner, a better job, the lottery, or a better drug will cure you, go for it.
  • Don’t bother with spiritual psychotherapy if you think there is a solution to be found in dualistic philosophy and dualistic religion. The path of understanding is only for those who truly hunger and thirst for it.
  • If you think you have something finite to lose, why go for infinity, where you risk losing and finding everything
  • If you think you have something to lose, you are going to be protecting that finite thing, whatever it is.
  • If you think your ego game and tactics can get you what you want, you are not going to be interested in the disillusionment process.
  • Infinity Therapy offers only one thing, total disillusionment and total fulfillment. The only thing which keeps us from our divinity is our pet illusions.
  • The only thing that constantly devalues and deteriorates our self-esteem is our belief system.
  • The only thing that keeps us from salvation is our self-rescue plan.
  • The only thing that keeps us from enlightenment is our dualistic sick religion.
  • In case you haven’t noticed, I have just planted a psychological bomb under your comfort zone.
  • If you are not on already on the edge, you are not going to be willing to see the danger in your comfort zone story.
  • If you haven’t filed moral, financial, emotional, and spiritul bankruptcy yet, just wait.
  • If you are not willing to give 9.6 minutes per day to the disillusionment process and to the discovery of your divinity, then you are not ready.
  • Jesus said that only one out of four would be qualified at any given time. Otherwise the seed of truth falls in shallow ground, rocky turf, bird-infested fields, and does not germinate, sprout, grow, flower and produce fruit. And so for some people, it may take four more lifetimes of soil preparation before readiness occurs.
  • Our story is a strange mixture of positive and negative illusions and it is very difficult to distinguish one from the other. Only the Spirit is qualified to teach us such distinctions.

What are the qualifications for this kind of Disillusionment Therapy then?

1. Symptoms of unexplainable pain or illness

2. Disappointment and dissatisfaction

3. Disenchantment with one’s chosen self-rescue plan

4. Unanswerable questions

5. Unrelenting guilt, embarassing shame, irrational anger or ungrounded fear

6. Failure of our ego tactics to work and to satisfy

7. A key figure in your drama fails, leaves or dies

8. Your dreams are broken

9. You take off your mask

10. You begin to see that the world is your mirror

11. You have not yet understood that the universe has only one all-inclusive purpose, your self-realization.

If this list of qualifications seem to exclude 99% of the human race, so be it. This net is cast only for the 1% on any given day, and 25% at best. 

 

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Our story of loneliness, abandonment, separateness

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The truth of belonging, oneness, unity

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Our story of lack, deprivation, "not enough"

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The truth of abundance, wholeness, holiness

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Our story of entrapment, stuckness, victimization

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The truth of release, freedom, individuality